Spread That Love

It’s been a while – a very very long while – since I last posted on this blog. So much has happened.. so much good and only good. I fell in love and am in a (very) happy relationship with the nicest and most supportive human being I’ve known, I met my closest friend after ages, I moved to England to do my Master’s.. I can go on.

I’ve always felt that I was (am) a very negative person, mostly because I worry too much. I create all this drama in my head when I think about challenging situations and in doing so, I only expect the worst. So, for the past two years, I’ve actively tried to overcome these anxious and negative feelings and I may not be over these feelings completely, but I do notice sometimes, how far I’ve come with the way I handle situations positively. That makes me feel good.

Of course, there’s always times where I relapse into negative thinking and dramadramadrama. So, I constantly try to look for ways – often by reading helpful articles written by others – that will help me be happier and stay positive.

One approach I’ve begun recently, is to directly tell people what I admire about them. Sometimes, I think I sound silly like I’m cheering a 7-year-old on – my voice gets all high-pitched -, but I’ve been doing it anyway. It’s also getting easier for me to compliment people, which sounds very normal and is something people do everyday. But is it?

I think, with all the negativity in this world right now, we all need a bit of positivity and encouragement from time to time. Letting people know that I appreciate and notice that they’ve done something nice or even offering a simple compliment makes me happy. Even smiling at a stranger (who smiles back, of course) has the ability to make my day!

So, try it.

Spread some love and positivity in the smallest way you can – it is more powerful than you think it is.

 

BUN-BUTTER-JAM IT UP #2

“Ooga-chaka ooga ooga, ooga-chaka ooga ooga”

This song’s been stuck in my head since I watched Guardians of the Galaxy AND one of my favourite Tarantino’s, Reservoir Dogs, both in the same week. Now I’m hooked on Hooked on a Feeling.

Although I’d much prefer the song without the chant, which was how it was originally recorded by B.J. Thomas in the 60s, I can’t help admitting it is such an earworm, and I often march around the house “ooga-chaka”-ing to my family and most of the time, to myself. (Yes, my second name is Weirdo.)

BUN-BUTTER-JAM IT UP #1

I’m starting a new series called the Bun-Butter-Jam It Up, where I’ll post my favourite song of the week.
Who better than to give the honour of my first post to…. Kwabs!

Kwabs, short for Kwabena Adjepong, is a young and upcoming British singer with the voice of an angel. Listening to him makes me feel like I live in a world with dragonfly bunnies. What a world that would be. Sigh!

Dragonfly bunniieeees!

Have a listen to his latest single and my first Bun-Butter-Jam It Up track, Walk. A bit ‘poppier’ than his usual RnB/soul style (oh yes, this brother’s got soul!), but as beautiful. Enjoy!

If you likey, check out his incredible acoustic sessions. Yumm!

How I Killed My Career AKA A Resurrection of Sorts

My life’s about to change. I’m excited. I’m confused. I’m grateful.

I graduated with a degree in Journalism, Literature and Psychology. Since graduating, I’ve only worked in Events and PR. Now, I’ve decided to switch to Education. Not because I don’t like what I’m doing, but only because I want to work with children. And I don’t even love children all that much!

My life’s about to change.

I’m excited.

This is something I’ve wanted for the past two years – to work with kids -, and more so in the last few months. The new job will make me a certified Cognitive Trainer. Sounds fancy, right? It is! I get to help kids improve their cognitive skills, which will consequently improve important brain functions such as their attention and memory, and help them to do better academically and in other non-academic areas like sports. It means having to also work with children who have learning difficulties, which can get hard and challenging.

I’m confused.

It’ll be hard and challenging to work with children of all kinds, especially since I haven’t ever done anything like this before.
And that isn’t even the confusing part.
I’m quitting my full-time fairly-well paying PR job, which I actually like, and possibly making the worst move for my career in Communications, for…… a part-time job to…. work with children for…… less than half the pay.
What am I even doing? Does this even make sense?
I haven’t even worked with children before. I don’t even know whether I’m good at this. I’m not even a patient person by nature. Just what am I doing?

I’m grateful.

I’m grateful for having supportive parents.
I’m grateful for all the super jobs and opportunities I’ve had that have made me who I am today.

This is Your Life

My life’s about to change!

All this week, I’ve been in training for the teaching job, and have had to observe other trainers in action. And it’s only made me more eager to do this.

It may not have been the best decision for my career, but it’s probably the best decision I’ve taken for, and in, my life so far.

This is my small way of making a difference in the world – by making a difference to these little kids’ lives. Call me naïve, call me confused, but I’ll still say what I need to say.

Please get off my bed

Happiness is…. not sharing a bed!

We had relatives over the last two nights. In other words, I had to share my bed with my cousin. Not for one night, TWO nights.

Now, I can be very fussy about ‘my space’. In queues, I hate when people stand so close to me, so close that I can feel their various body parts. No ma’am, it’s not okay for you to be this close to me even though you’re a woman. And no, I don’t want to be harassed by your boobs.

Same with MY bed. I’m not a sleep-fighter (read: a person who kicks around in his sleep). I often wake up with a numb arm or leg from sleeping too long in one position.

Life was good when I got my single bed replaced with this ‘princessy’ queen-sized bed. What I didn’t realise till two days ago is that…. I’d be expected to share my bed with sleep-fighter cousins. Not cool.

Okay, I lied. I'm not that tall.

Okay, I lied. I’m not that tall.

My bed is MY bed. It’s what I miss most when I force myself to get off it every morning. It’s what I run back to, when I get back home.

I love my bed so much, that I’m starting to tear up as I type this. Though, that’s probably from no sleep and all the bruises my cousin gave me last night.

True story

And now I’m all sleepy and grumpy. And I’ve got work tomorrow.
Early night for me tonight, while I fall asleep to my favourite new discovery, The Bed and… I mean, The Head and the Heart’s Another Story.

Have a good weekend, rest-of-the-world!

Answer in Song

Thanks Steve, for this great and fun idea.

(1) Go to the music player of your choice and put it on shuffle.
(2) Say the following questions aloud and press play.the song title as your answers.
(3) Use the song title as your answers
(4) NO CHEATING

1. How does the world see me?

PULL THIS BLANKET OFF – The Raconteurs

Yes, I probably should pull this blanket off me first.

2. Will I have a happy life?

A GOOD MAN IS HARD TO FIND – Sufjan Stevens

True. But doesn’t answer the question.

3. What do my friends really think of me?

LOVE IS A VERB – John Mayer

No idea, but I do know what they think love is.

4. Do people secretly like me?

WITH ARMS WIDE OPEN – Creed

Haha, errr, okay then.

5. How can I make myself happy?

THINGS WE LOST IN THE FIRE – Bastille

By finding the things I lost in the fire, how else?? 

6. What should I do with my life?

GIVING UP – Ingrid Michaelson

ErrmmNOT!

7. How can I maximize my pleasure during sex?

CONCRETE WALL – Zee Avi

Mmmhmm, no comment.

8. Will I ever have children?

GET ME OUT OF HERE – Jet

Haha, couldnt have answered that better.

9. Will I die happy?

FAKE TALES OF SAN FRANCISCO – Arctic Monkeys

Um. Okay.

10. What is some good advice for me?

HE WAS REALLY SAYING SOMETHING – The Velvelettes

I shouldve listened, right? On second thoughts, Im glad I didnt.

11. What is happiness?

SOLITUDE IS BLISS – Tame Impala

Wait, what is this quiz trying to tell me? 

12. What is my favorite fetish?

DIRTY HARRY – Gorillaz

That’s right. Harry, tell them. O_o

13. How will I be remembered?

POET – Bastille

Umm, nope, I dont think so.

14. Why should life be full of so much pain?

DIE ALONE – Ingrid Michaelson

SAY WHAT NOW??